My Vision for 2012: Ambition Prompt #3

Prompt #3: What are the available resources for making your dreams come true? Are they intangibles such as courage, determination, hard work and intelligence or are they financial? Determine the value of each resource in their ability to help you reach your dream.

Create an art journal page answering this question, include a paragraph of journaling.

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by Julie Ann Shahin, Studio Tangie Social Media Team

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What resources do I use to reach my dream?

One of my number one goals is to have a great, lasting marriage. It’s a common dream to love and be loved. We all have that in common. I thought  for a while, and decided upon the following ten traits as my most important resources to draw upon, not in any certain order:

  • passion
  • communication
  • understanding
  • forgiveness
  • honesty
  • teamwork
  • family
  • quality time
  • keeping fit (health)
  • love

I expanded upon the first four traits.

Passion

My passion to make my marriage work is perhaps the greatest resource at my disposal. It is what makes me fight for us to work. I have an Irish temper, yet I also learned a lot of communication skills from years of therapy.

We have passionate arguments yet our intentions are to relay constructive criticism, useful information, to one another, and we try not to hit below the belt.

 

Communication

This segways into communication. As I mentioned that I had years of therapy where I learned actual skills to use in communication, I find that I can no longer hold back my frustrations nor let anything build up between us.

That’s not to say that I take issue with every little thing that goes wrong. You do have to pick your battles. A good measure I use is to ask myself, “Is this going to matter five years from now?” If I know that I will have long forgotten it by then, it’s not worth making it into an issue.

So I communicate frustations as they happen. I don’t wait and surprise my spouse when he’s not expecting it. This has been effective for us, and we never go to bed mad at each other.

I do admit it’s not easy. If it sounds easy, it’s not. You just have to realize and trust that the other person really can handle what you have to say. True, if you set a boundary, they are not going to jump for joy.

I trust, in the end, that my husband is not going to walk out and leave me over an argument as long as we use fair fighting techniques, and try to be effective in communication. No verbal or physical abuse.

 

Understanding

Close behind communication is understanding. It feels good to be with a partner who “gets me,” and vice versa.

Overall, when we have a talk, we try to make sure we conclude with an understanding between us.

For instance, we both work from home. We can get pretty focused on the computer to the point that we don’t hear the other person talking. We now have an understanding that if my husband wants to talk to me while I’m on the computer, he will come into the room that I am in, make eye contact with me, ask me to make eye contact with him (cues me to really listen), and makes sure I am listening. I often repeat back to him what he said so he knows I have heard and understood.

That is just one form of understanding between us.

 

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is one trait I, personally, have been working on over the spring and summer. There were events years ago where I’ve held onto the anger as if it were a teddy bear. I didn’t think I could ever embrace forgiveness.

I’ve come to realize how important forgiveness is for your health. It’s taken many months, yet slowly, forgiveness has seeped into my heart through cracks that I started. It felt good. The more I do it, and feel it wash over me, the more I like it.

As I remember different events, and different people, even if they are no longer in my life, I feel transformed by forgiveness – forgiving them, forgiving myself.

I also did a marriage quiz somewhere once, where I found out that one of my weaknesses was that I hold back forgiveness the most. So as I forgive my past, I am opening up, and also realizing I do not need to hold onto grudges against my spouse either. I need to be ready with forgiveness.

 

Inspiration for My Vision for 2012: Ambition Prompt #3

Julie Ann

Journaling: 21 Suggestions for Success by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.

2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.

3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.

5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.

6. Be generous.

7. Have a grateful heart.

8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.

9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.

10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.

11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.

12. Commit yourself to quality.

13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.

14. Be loyal.

15. Be honest.

16. Be a self-starter.

17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.

18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.

 

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Julie Ann Shahin is a New York-based art journaler, scrapbooker, mixed media craftster who specializes in hybrid and altered art techniques. She will be blogging regularly for tangiebaxter.com on Wednesdays and Saturdays. You may contact Julie Ann directly at julieann dot shahin at gmail dot com

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